11 Years

Today Alex and I celebrate our 11th wedding anniversary. Eleven years!! reception1_0005

It is hard to limit the list, but here are 11 things I love about being married to Alex:

1) He knows me and loves me for myself.

2) Better than just knowing, Alex indulges me with simple things, like the last bite of ice cream or serving me a nightcap.

3) Alex exudes such confidence that I am able to feel more confident in my self.

4) He makes me laugh, even when I am laughing at how his bad puns remind me of his father.

5) Alex is tall and retrieves things from high places for me. I would never have looked specifically for this quality in a mate but boy is it handy.

6) He likes to garden, cook, and eat like I do.

7) He likes to play with fire and sharp stuff, which I don't like to do but sometimes need to be done.

8 ) Alex is a fantastic parenting partner.

9) He's also great about helping to take care of all the other creatures in the house - dogs, fish, chickens, squirrels.

10) He shares my do-it-yourself mentality and the plumbing/carpentry/cleaning/cooking/crafting tasks borne from such a state of mind. He doesn't even mind when I slow things down by taking pictures for this blog.

11) We continue to grow and learn new things about each other. Just last month he revealed that his nickname was 'bug man' in elementary school.

Happy Anniversary, love!

Last year I shared the story of our romance. Alex contributed his version too. Part of my gift to Alex was scanning our photograph prints (we were married before digital!) into a Flickr set.

 

Modern Mistletoe: Meat, Marriage, & Duck Prosciutto Pizza {Charcutepalooza}

modern mistle toe: meat and marriage I recently mentioned on twitter that having the first meat of the season hanging in the basement made me feel like our house was a home again. Someone (who are you? I can't find the tweet now!) replied "It's modern mistletoe!"

That got me to thinking about how meat curing is a tasty metaphor for my nearly-eleven-year-long marriage to Alex.

modern marriage: working togetherCuring meat takes time and attention from both parties in our house. We help each other to procure the ingredients, turn the meat in cure, and check it as it dries.

Some couples like to have independent hobbies but we like being in each other's business. Even before I ate meat, I assisted Alex with charcuterie because it's a fascinating hobby.

marriage and laughter

Meat curing and marriage benefit from a healthy dose of humor. Much of making bacon (or duck prosciutto in this case) is icky work - there's raw meat, mildly-toxic salt, and the possibility of insects being attracted to the drying meat. The cure for the gross parts of curing is to laugh. We make jokes (sausage is especially good for word play), gently tease, and sometimes try to drip meat juice on a spouse during a photo shoot. It's all good fun.

duck proscuitto pizza

When meat is done curing, we cook up creative dishes together. In the case of the duck prosciutto, we added it to homemade pizza. Alex made the dough and I popped open a jar of my home-canned tomato sauce. We added a pile of arugula and mozzarella before topping the 'za with thin prosciutto slices and a grate of Parmesan.

Alex and I enjoyed the pizza with a glass of wine and candle on the table in the company of our daughter Lil (who also served as the photographer for the three portraits above). We savored the from-scratch food we made together.

Curing meat challenges us to work together, listen to each other, and enjoy the finer things in life. Meat IS our modern mistletoe, the object under which we find love.

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Duck Prosciutto Pizza Makes: 1 12-inch pizza Time: 2 hours dough, 20 minutes assembly, 7-10 minutes cooking

1/4 recipe homemade pizza dough 1/4 cup tomato sauce 3 ounces fresh arugula 1/2 cup shredded mozzarella cheese 2 ounces duck prosciutto, sliced as thinly as possible 1/4 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese

1. Heat oven to 450 degrees F with a baking stone on center rack. 2. Make a thin circle from the dough and place on a cornmeal dusted pizza peel or back of a cookie sheet. 3. Top pizza with a bit of tomato sauce, then arugula and mozzarella cheese. 4. Arrange duck prosciutto and top with Parmesan. 5. Transfer pizza to the baking stone. 6. Bake for 7-10 minutes until cheese is melted and slightly brown. Remove from oven, let rest 1-2 minutes, cut, and serve.

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This post is a part of the year-long Charcutepalooza challenge. Read below for our other meat-curing adventures and reflections.

Waste Not, Want Not Squirrel Rillettes English Pork Pie Photojournal Almost All-Ohio Mouselline How to Make Hot Dogs Like a Girl Mint Lamb Sausage Inspired by Jorgensen Farms Taco Truck Chorizo Sopito Red’s Canadian Bacon or Why I Had to Kill a Pig To Eat Meat Again The Story of the Rachel Salt Cure Old and New Cider Syrup Bacon

Ten Years Married - according to Alex

Yesterday, Rachel shared our love story leading up to our marriage on December 30, 2000.  I surprised her with this summary of our first ten years as husband and wife.  I'm looking forward to the next ten years and beyond. - Alex 2001 - We were married at the Art Museum and then moved back to California so I could learn Russian.  We watched sea otters on the shore and hiked in the mountains.  We adopted a cute little dog named Mica and then moved back to Columbus to finish college.

2002- College continued and we acquired a loud smelly hound named Devie.  We lived north of campus and enjoyed the last of our college days even though your schedule was hectic.  At the beginning of the summer we picked up and moved to Southeastern Virginia with the two dogs.  The mosquitoes were horrendous, and I worked for the Navy while you worked for the Orthodox Jews.

2003- We remained in Virginia and began to not like the place due to the hot summers and destructive hurricanes.  However, we remained and enjoyed trips to the Eastern Shore and elsewhere in coastal Virginia.  The dogs liked walking on the beach and barking at herons.  In the Summer we went to Hawaii where we snorkeled and visited the volcanoes.

2004- We had had our fill of Tidewater and decided to move back.  Before we departed, we were sent on a Navy boondoggle back to Hawaii where we once again snorkeled, looked at sea turtles and ate mochi-covered ice cream for the first time.  We arrived back in Columbus where I went to work in West Jefferson and you worked for the UU church.  The fall was very unpleasant, but we got through it together.

2005- At the beginning of the year, we managed to successfully get you knocked up.  At the start of the summer I went back to work for the government while you continued at the church.  As the year went by you got bigger and bigger.  In the summer we made a new friend when Naoko came to stay with us from Japan.  She was a wonderful person and we have stayed in touch ever since.  In September, Lillian came into our lives (in a most protracted fashion) and things have never been the same.

2006- I travelled more and more for the government which made our life with the small baby difficult, but we managed.  You became less satisfied with your work at the church, but you stayed working for some time.  We also began selling surplus military helmets which were a surprising success. Lillian continued to grow...

2007- In the late winter, Kevin and Maureen were married.  We appeared in the wedding party and you looked more beautiful than anyone else there.  Shortly after, we went to Japan for business and to visit our friends.  The helmets continued to sell, and we considered branching into other products such as water bottles.  We began our tradition of yearly visits to Massachusetts and enjoyed a summer getaway to SC.  In the later summer we moved to our new house on Tibet Rd.  By the end of the year Lillian was potty-trained and sleeping in her own bed.

2008- Water bottle sales were in full swing and my job with the government was going well.  Lillian would not stop growing.  In March there was a blizzard in Columbus in which we enjoyed playing for a number of days.  Hawise arrived in the early spring and we again had two dogs.  Our vegetable garden was beautiful and we made many plans to expand it.  By the end of the year, we had helped elect a new president and decided that retail sales were not our cup of tea.

2009- I travelled more and more while you unfortunately had to stay home with a sick Lillian.  Later in the year we planted trees and expanded our vegetable garden.  By the fall we had a bustling home life going and you had started blogging at a very respectable rate. I began my interest with charcuterie sometime during this year; our basement has often smelled delicious every since.

2010- In the late winter we acquired chickens.  Our household animal count rose to six with a revolving number of fish.  In the spring we took Lil to Washington D.C. and to see the ponies on Chincoteague.  The summer mainly revolved around an epic Canadian canoe trip.  By the fall and winter you were struggling with monumental sinus problems and we were approaching 3,650 days of matrimony....

I'd like to rest my heavy head tonight on a bed of California stars

This morning I venture out to California to meet with Alex, already there conducting some business audits. California is special to us because just after we were married in December of 2000, we moved to Monterey.  Alex was stationed there learning Russian at the Defense Language Institute (DLI) for the Army Reserves.

We moved back to Ohio in July of the 2001 to finish our college education but our hearts and marriage are forever linked to the golden state.

Actually, our marriage came about because of California, in a way.  We were dating before Alex left and both knew we wanted to be together forever.  We were young, very young, so marriage seemed like something in the distant future.

When Alex got to DLI, he was bunked in a small room with another man.  His married friends had whole houses, with beautiful hardwood floors and spacious kitchens.

One night when we were talking on the phone he said, "I'd really like to live in married housing."

"Oh yeah?," I said.

"Yeah," he replied, "Do you want to get married and come live here?"

I visited in September, he gave me a ring, and three months later we were hitched and living as newlyweds in Cali.

young rachel and alex on monterey coast

In the years since, Alex has traveled to California at least a half dozen times for his work.  I recently jokingly threatened to divorce him on our tenth anniversary if I didn't visit the left coast by then.

So there you have a long winded version of why we are going.  Lillian will stay with Alex's parents amounting to our longest separation from her.

Our trip will start in Los Angeles.  Then we will drive to Monterey for a few days and back to LA.  We plan to enjoy local dining and wine in ways we couldn't when we lived there before because we were poor students. The only thing I absolutely want to do is visit Point Lobos park, possibly the most beautiful place on earth.

One other thing on the itinerary is to discuss some changes to this blog. We want to make it bigger and better for all of us. :)

Cheers!  I have an airplane to catch.

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The title is lyrics to the song California Stars by Woody Guthrie recorded by Wilco and Billy Bragg in the Mermaid Avenue album.  It is one of our favorite albums ever, introduced to us by a friend stationed at DLI with Alex. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGlsfM3Tf70]